Hi all. I will be posting later today or tomorrow on ways we can structure this blog to help focus the conversations and help differing viewpoints be heard. More on that later.

But I would first like to start compiling some resource lists for us as Emerging Parents. I know that often we find ourselves wishing we could find books or websites that echo our holistic approach to parenting, but don't know where to look. So I would love it if we could compile a list here of resources. These would be books or websites you have found to be helpful as a parent. Parenting books, spiritual formation books, education books, kid's books... whatever has helped you along the way. Please give us the title and author and link if you have it and if you can a very brief reason why you found it helpful. Hopefully this can be a way we can support each other in this adventure.


posted by Julie at 10:07:00 AM |


At October 15, 2007 at 12:28 PM, Blogger Lisa

I'd love to see what others put here! One book that I really resonated with was "For the Family's Sake" by Susan Schaeffer Macaulay. Some of the language is old, but I resonate with her perspective on the value of home and children. She also wrote one that focuses more on an educational philosophy called "For the Children's Sake". Truthfully, we have had to cobble many of our ideas together through a variety of avenues. I'd love to see others lists. If I think of any more, I will add them.


At October 15, 2007 at 12:37 PM, Blogger Sarah Jane Rhee

Here are some resources I've found helpful in my 3 years as a parent to a very active, assertive little girl. Julie, I apologize but I just can't do the very-brief thing. Please forgive me, y'all...

Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn. I know that many people find his "no punishment" stance hard to swallow, but I think he makes a good point in questioning our motives in punishing--whether it's actually for character building or for our own immediate convenience. Others find his "no rewards" stance even more bizarre, but to me it makes sense. There's also a DVD version for those who don't have time for reading another parenting book.

Between Parent and Child by Haim Ginott. It's a classic on how to communicate empathically w/ children (and the concepts apply just as well to any other relationship).

Becoming the Parent You Want to Be by Laura Davis and Janis Keyser. I found this book different from most other parenting books for two reasons. One, the emphasis on diversity and social activism, and two, its section on handling difficult behavior is the best, most realistic and most practical I've seen. It's also the most liberal (politically, socially, etc) parenting book I've seen as well, which is awesome by me but may be a turn-off for others.

Empathic Parenting This is a website for parenting coach Lisa Stroyan. It's not the prettiest site on the web, but there are a lot of helpful, encouraging articles there.


At October 16, 2007 at 10:33 AM, Blogger AIMEE

www.gentlechristianmothers.com has great articles and resources that have really helped me~


At October 16, 2007 at 10:37 AM, Blogger AIMEE

"Grace Based Parenting" by Tim Kimmel is another great book


At October 16, 2007 at 1:27 PM, Blogger Robin M.

Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting by Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn has been helpful to my husband and me, with perspective from parents who have children already grown into caring adults.

My Monastery is a Minivan by Denise Roy is a profound and funny collection of essays from life as a mother and a spiritual leader.

And the various children's religious education curricula published by Friends General Conference and Philadelphia Yearly Meeting (Religious Society of Friends/Quakers), much of which is available at www.Quakerbooks.org with inclusive and respectful language and activities.

Robin Mohr
What Canst Thou Say?


At October 16, 2007 at 8:37 PM, Blogger Julie

I am a huge fan of Alfie Kohn's writing and so I echo sarah in recommending his stuff. My favorites of his include -
Unconditional Parenting
The Homework Myth
and Punished by Rewards

another parenting books I've recently found helpful is Playful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen

On the ministry/spiritual formation side of things I would recommend
Ivy Beckwith's Postmodern Children's Ministry
Gretchen Wolff Pritchard's Offering the Gospel to Children
and Will Our Children Have Faith? by John Westerhoff

and I've been meaning to read Children Matter. Has anyone read this yet? Is it good?


At November 6, 2007 at 10:22 AM, Anonymous curtis

Thanks for everyone's comments on this post! I just picked up Unconditional Parenting at the library last night, got through the intro and first chapter. WOW, this sounds great. A breath of fresh air. Can't wait to get through it.